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Divorce can drape a period of darkness over you that can easily cloud your perspective.  This could lead to lost faith in love and ever finding it again. 

So, before I offer suggestions about where to find love, I'm going to start this article by just asking, "What is love anyway?"

What is love anyway?

That's really an important question following divorce because many of us start our new single lives looking through a distorted breakup lens. This easily distorts our expectations and our belief in lasting love.

In other words, negative feelings about your marriage, divorce, or ex (no matter if well deserved) should not continue to develop negative sentiments about love.

My definition and suggestions may not surprise you, but they may redirect your search that currently may be off course. My hope is that you call-to-mind what you really seek and why. 

Love defined.

LOVE [luv] noun, verb:

  1. love, loosely defined by this would-be writer degreed in divorce and halfwits, is a strong feeling that may include affection, admiration, empathy, and compassion; it may also represent a pleasure or great interest
  2. it can also mean to like someone or something a whole bunch laughing

Love is easily found and lost.  It can be made, confessed and desired.  It has been known to bring about jealousy, rage and produce great pain and agony.  Love is fluid yet perplexing all at once.  It can make us sick, blind, and struck. 

Despite any doubts of obtaining lasting love, most of us still seek it, relentlessly.  Love and happiness are two components of a fulfilling life.  

Got Faith? Got love.

Much like our faith in God, even when something or someone barricades our ability to believe, we may find comfort in knowing that despite our doubts, fears and grief, our faith is enough to provide support and guidance.  Such comfort may be the first step towards recovery from any loss in one's life.  

Just like faith in your belief system or religion, faith in love is a crucial step away from a painful experience such as divorce.

Divorce. 

See it for what it should lead to and not for the immediate feelings it precipitates.

Divorce is not a period of anti-love, it's a difficult and often painful life event that puts a stop to a once-loving-relationship that damages one or both spouse's life and/or potential for real, lasting love. 

Divorce can be a beginning, not an end, but only if you believe in new beginnings more than lost love. 

Still lost, doubting, looking? 

No worries.  You are not alone.  Following a divorce or bad breakup, like I mentioned earlier, many of us feel jilted and skeptical. 

We may need help finding our way back to love, faith in ourselves and the goodness of others.

So, if you've asked yourself, "Where's the love in my life?" 

I say, "First you should know where it isn't." (...or at least where you shouldn't be looking to find- or replace it. foot-in-mouth)

If you aren't really catching-on to the spin I've put on this article, let me slow it down and switch gears.

Find love and a better outlook!

Love facts

Love never lost.

Now, after all this, if you still wonder where to find love, remember, look within yourself and you will easily find it within others.  It may start with a smile, kindness, forgiveness, or belief that life is best lived with love and happiness as a foundation.  The key word here is "belief".

To our readers, every life on this planet and those no longer with us, we offer everlasting love and gratitude and Happy Valentines!

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