There are many things in life that can break us. These are the things that really make us question our life, our choices and our faith.  They cause many of us to lose our confidence, change our life and forget how to be ourselves.

At some point, we are so unsure about the choices we made that got us to where we are in our life, we aren't sure that any new direction or previous convictions will provide stability we currently lack.

It's not only difficult to get out of these messes, but the reality of how much they affect us usually sneaks up on us on some random weekday morning while commuting to our job. 

One day we are busy and stressed, worried about our divorce, job, kids; the next day we feel stuck.  We may start with questioning things about our divorce, worry about the direction it's taking us and our family.  Next it may turn into a week, month or year reflecting on questions or thoughts about the situations that eventuated these problems.

Questions only you can answer 

"Why did I pick the person I married only to end up divorced?"

"Why did I stay?"

"Why didn't I seek higher education or a better job?"

"Why didn't God protect me from the pain I am experiencing?  Didn't I work enough, pray enough & tithe enough?"

It's easy to think God let us down.  It's easier to think we let ourselves down.  We should have been stronger, smarter or more courageous.  If we made all of those mistakes, how will it ever be possible for us to make the right decisions today or in the future?  God didn't show us the way or if he did, we didn't have the right connection to his goodness.

We may start really overthinking every step we take.  We may be unsure about our friends, our church, our faith.  One day we blame ourselves about our past, the next day, we blame our former spouse or someone else.  Fear, confusion and indecision consumes us.  

Answering the questions

Not everyone will need to answer all the questions.  But, many of us need to reconcile with our past before beginning down the path towards the future.  It provides us a sense of acknowledgement of what went wrong, our fault or not and how to avoid such mistakes in the future.

Counseling or group therapy can help.  But, faith in a religion or God may give a personal strength to not only answer these types of questions, but provide a better grasp on accepting the things from the past and their affects on the future we fear can not be changed.

Are you in the divorce trap?

It's very easy to get into a trap following a life changing event such as divorce.  It involves over-scrutinizing everything in your life from a former spouse to home, job, self or religion.  

Your former spouse and you are no longer a couple.  Don't spend too much time feeling frustrated about him/her or being overly concerned about what he/she thinks, wants or does.  If you are co-parents focus on equal considerations and cooperation for your children.  If you are friends, be friends, but if your new relationship isn't positive, take a step back until it can be or accept that it never will be a close friendship like you once hoped.

It's great to look into self-improvement and consider some things about your current lifestyle, home or job that need improvement.  But, don't change everything about yourself or your life in an effort to find some stability, positive changes or new normal.  

If your current faith or religion has left you feeling lost or if you have had concerns that make you question your faith; now is the time to reconnect or find a belief system that can allow you a closer relationship with God.  Just don't cut all faith and religion out of your life.  It can be a major foundation when all other support systems have failed.

New and old

You have had some time to think about the important questions about your life, your past and your faith that need to be answered.  Look to God when your religion has not always served you.  God is an unbiased God.  He will always provide love and support through prayer and meditation.  

Allow your faith in God to provide a new path towards what inspires you to move forward with your life.  Faith and wisdom will open the doors in your life that allow healthy changes and will protect you from letting go of what you should keep.

Your faith is not only in your God, religion or beliefs, but in yourself.  The more you allow yourself to take action to improve your life, the greater your individual confidence.  

Life has a path meant to be explored

Seek the power of faith and God to provide a path for your lifetime that is everchanging.  This path will include many great things, times and people.  It will include great loss, fears and mistakes.  Faith will not always protect you from such things.  Faith will keep you moving forward, living and taking every opportunity to maximize where life's path can take you.  

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