You're going to get a lot of advice about what to do and when.  But, what about what not to do? 

One of the most important things to do following divorce is to identify as a single person rather than a spouse.   We begin to let go of mutual expectations and opinions in order to develop our independence as a single person. 

Should you downgrade Valentine's Day while going through a divorce?

Well...yes.  During or following a divorce, Valentines Day can be a holiday that can make you pretty sad.  It's fine to participate with your family and friends with sweet treats, cards and the like.  But, don't let the day stress you out over lost love and shortage of a lover's attention.  Need help?  We have ideas to keep this dreadful day off your mind...