Spooky goblins, howling wolves and haunted houses don't compare with the scary decisions couples face when deciding terms of a divorce settlement agreement.  These terms include matters affecting their future, family and money.  What could be scarier? 

"What doesn't kill you...makes you stronger, wiser, and more capable.  But first you must learn to lose."

You're going to get a lot of advice about what to do and when.  But, what about what not to do? 

One of the most important things to do following divorce is to identify as a single person rather than a spouse.   We begin to let go of mutual expectations and opinions in order to develop our independence as a single person.