"What doesn't kill you...makes you stronger, wiser, and more capable.  But first you must learn to lose."

You're going to get a lot of advice about what to do and when.  But, what about what not to do? 

One of the most important things to do following divorce is to identify as a single person rather than a spouse.   We begin to let go of mutual expectations and opinions in order to develop our independence as a single person.