My husband and I had every intention to divorce when we decided to separate.  We shared an attorney who advised us of the different types of divorce options offered where we live.  We were advised our state required a 6 month waiting period to divorce following a legal separation. 

It's not easy to be married, then get separated and suddenly live alone.  The divorce is a constant reminder that something was wrong in your life.   In many ways, it would help to have the companionship, love and attention you may find in a spouse.   Someone to talk to, kiss and cry with when things are horribly wrong in your life.  A loving spouse usually helps you cope with all your problems.  Now your spouse is one of your problems.

Arguments, heartbreak and marriage problems can distort your perspective and make your decision making skills equivalent to a love sick teenager.  One of the most challenging things I realized days after my separation was that I wasn't over my wife or my marriage.

How to accept your ex's dating life

There are some things in life that can open your eyes and close your heart.  Your first heartbreak gives you a peak.  But, a divorce will give you a long, hard look into the eyes of pure emotional turmoil. foot-in-mouthcool