The divorce is finally complete.  You're fully entrenched in your new single lifestyle.  You're totally ready for this.  You're ready to shed a few pounds, clean out the closets and dig into your career or education.  Right?

Many divorce articles and books are going to tell you much of the same thing.  Problems lead to divorce, divorce to emotional distress, then acknowledgment and healing.  Divorce resources help, but after awhile it may just be time for chocolate, wine and sad movie marathons.  Right? 

Um. Maybe.undecided

You can't look to the future until you let go of the past.  It may seem like harmless "flings" with your ex, but if the relationship isn't moving toward reconciliation then it's binding you to failed love.